I just finished reading The Balance Project by Susie Orman Schnall. It was fantastic. Reading the book got me thinking about my life right now. Balance. Can we have it all. Is that possible? Honestly, I feel like the answer is no. Not to be a Debbie Downer or anything, but I just don’t feel like we can give 100% to everything in our lives without something else caving.
I had a breakdown this weekend. I was trying to figure something out with the house and was super frustrated and I snapped. I ended up going outside – into the rain – and just standing there for a bit, crying. I needed the air, the space, the cold to think things through. Why was I breaking, why did everything feel like too much?
I think that I just let everything pile up. We’ve been working at the house as much as we can after work and on the weekends, I have hardly seen many of my friends recently, I’m not sleeping well, I hardly get any time to workout, let alone relax. It all just got to be too much and I snapped.
So back to balance. Maybe it is just my experience, but for me, I can’t train for a marathon and be present with the building process and spend quality time with Lane and our family and friends and be focused at work and keep up with normal house tasks, cook, and take time to take care of myself. I’ve had to choose what is most important each day and try to keep all the balls going as best as I can. All of those things (and more) are important and can’t be neglected, but sometimes I have to hit pause on some things and do my best to focus on them as I have the time.
Right now, I’m trying to catch up on sleep and get in at least short workouts as I have time. I’m not training for a marathon, but I still need that outlet. Something is better than nothing, so sometimes a short workout is what I’ve got time for and it’s better than nothing at all. If I can sleep and get in semi-regular workouts, at least I behave like a normal person and don’t snap at people I love.
So can you have it all? Maybe? Sometimes? But when things build up and become too much, I think something’s got to give. It’s up to you to decide what that is.
How do you balance life? Do you think that people can ‘have it all’? What do you do when you get stressed?